Oops i did it again.............

I got to wound up in life and did something stupid costing me lots of money and most importantly my job. With the catastrophic events these last few months that has gone on with my family, I forgot two important things. To renew my apartment lease and a required nursing certification for work, which is only offered once per month. My rent switched to a month to month status without warning costing me a huge amount for the month as well as expiration of that certification leaving me out of work for twenty days without pay. Until the required class is offered. These extra costs could NOT have come at a worse time. After a severely sick dog, one of many emergencies that drained my bank account and no credit cards. My dream trip to the Greek Islands, ten years in the making only 34 days away. I cannot even fathom the idea I canceling this dream trip after working 21 overtime shifts to pay for it. Every time something bad happens, I would like to think its a blessing in some way, everything will work out and, be better after. All the things that have happened these last few months I can NOT imagine something good ever coming from it. Maybe this break from work will give me the opportunity to grieve and come to terms with things. Putting forth so much love and passion for my career with little to no identity outside of work hasn't been a good thing either. I need to find more purpose outside of work, to better thrive as a person. These next 20 days will possibly be the hardest thing I have ever done to date. Running a marathon is easy next to 20 days without pay and no money in the bank.

Casting Stones

Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone. My life is lived drama and secret free. I have devoted my entire life to saving children, now more than ever that remains true. Hurting a child in any way, shape of form is not okay. Our own sins no matter how seemingly insignificant, disqualifies us a judges of other peoples sins. Actions of others has no reflection on me, my name, my career or my brand. No amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of anxiety cant change the future. We are forever changed, the past cannot be edited or erased. For the healing process to take place we need not be casting stones and focusing time and energy on revenge. Healing and grieving takes time.

Top 10 places in Florida to Visit

1. Orlando. 2. Key West. 3. South Beach. 4. Fort Lauderdale. 5. Islamorada. 6. Tampa. 7. Pensacola. 8. Destin. 9. Fort Myers. 10.Sanabel.

Surviving a holiday in South Beach

Whenever friends come to visit the first thing they want to do is go to South Beach, especially my Aussie Mates. I live 30 miles from South Beach(SOBE)but never have the desire to go, Its an expensive tourist trap. However I have been to SOBE at least ten times entreating friends and have a few suggestions. My first suggestion would be to break up your holiday as much as possible to see other parts of Florida such as Fort Lauderdale, Key West and Orlando. Two to four days in each city is all you need to hit all of the high points. My advice is as follows: 1. Stay at a hostel if you are young and hip enough. Such as the Deco Walk Hostel or the Miami Beach International Hostel. They offer the lowest price for the best location. They also provide meals and a community kitchen. They usually have drink specials as well as a very young hip crowd. For most hostels you must show proof of being a non Florida resident. 2. During the week you can get 50% off meals or bar tabs at most restaurants when its not bust and they will do pretty much anything to get you in. 3. If you are looking to go out clubbing to one of the many popular clubs such as Liv and Mansion contact a local club promoter to get on the guest list for free. 4. I always bring my own booze and a packed lunch to the beach to save money. Publix subs are your best bet. 5.Parking can be very expensive running you upwards of $40 per day. Slightly cheaper are most hotels for around $30. I recommend using the 17th street garage or the parking lot across the street for about $1.30per hr. The garage is across the street from the beach and the lot is on the beach. There is also a small concession stand and bathrooms here. 6. Be careful what drinks you order, many of times I have wound up with an oversized $30 drink that could have been shared. The best SOBE drink is a huge margarita with two beers upside down in it for $50.00 each. I have actually gotten this drink on a few occasions and shared it with three to four people for fun. 7.The official drink of SOBE is a mojito cant go wrong. 8. The best idea for having an awesome, memorable time in SOBE is pool crashing. Like Las Vegas, SOBE is known for its awesome hotel pools and pool parties. No need to break the bank staying at the hotel if you know a few tricks the locals use. You can use the famous Fontainebleau pool simply by purchasing a "spa pass". This pass gets you access to the pools, lockers, changing areas and sauna. Other hotels that offer day passes for about $20 include the Delano, Raleigh, Mondrian, Lowes, Shore Club and Four Seasons. If the hotels pool passes are no longer available or blocked out simply walk in. The best way to sneak into the pool is through the lobby. Follow closely behind someone like you own the place. Once you get to the pool bar order a drink. As a general rule If you are spending money you wont be thrown out especially if you are tipping well. Another option is to befriend a guest by buying them a drink. 9. The best places to hang out and people watch with a drink are the Clevelander and Mangos. 10. On the beach in the sand are food trucks for a cheaper food option. 12. The official food is the Cubin sandwich, anytime you see it on the menu order it. 13. Everything you have heard is true, the unofficial language of SOBE is Spanish.

What if....... I dated a guy with kids??

Not having kids but wanting them someday has always been a deal breaker for me when considering a guy "dating material". As I get older I am realizing I may one day find myself dating someone with kids. Being raised by a single mother whom never remarried and never having a relationship with my father, I have high expectations of what it means to be a dad. Any guy who brags about his kids all over Facebook or in online dating profiles but doesn't pay child support and only sees his kids every other weekend is no father to me. If I ever dated a guy who complained about having to pay $200 per month in child support I would punch him in the face! Do guys really think it only costs $200.00 per month to raise a kid? The only way I would EVER date a guy with kids would be if he had 50% or more responsibility physically and financially for his kids and has a drama free respectful relationship with the baby momma. In which case I could picture myself being in a "modern family" and living down the block and combining our families. If such a guy does exist I would fall for him hard. The sad reality is for most guys the ex and kids are out of sight and out of mind as they move on to the next thing effortlessly.

What if...The airline lost my luggage

Being the frequent flyer and planer I am, I needed a plan for if my luggage got lost in route to my holiday. On my last holiday a freshly engaged couple had lost luggage until the last day of the tour. I never knew because they didn't let it ruin the holiday. They had travel insurance and therefore had cash to buy new clothes. Even with the travel insurance its a huge inconvenience to be taking taxis to the mall instead of enjoying the tour you paid for. I now will always purchase travel insurance but I also have a plan. If my luggage is ever lost I will NOT let it ruin my trip. I will simply go to the nearest touristy shop and purchase all the tacky souvenir clothes I can find. Just like Borat in the movie Dictator. It would make for some hilarious pictures at the least. With any leftover money I will buy a round at the nearest bar for everyone on the tour as an icebreaker. Plus I will be in need of borrowing toothpaste and other necessities from my new friends .

Ex Boyfriends on Facebook

I have remained friendly acquaintances with 99% of my ex boyfriends. Mind you it didn't happen over night, but time heals all wounds and everything happens for a reason. Forgive and forget. This is especially easy considering I really don't date and the guys I do date are genuinely good people. When I run into them at a function or on Facebook with the skinny little wife, kids, a house and working the 9-5 grind, I think so myself.....Thank got that isn't me. Not one of those things describe me. I am a voluptuous free spirit, world traveler whom works 3 days per week at a career I love. I don't remember the last time I sat down for dinner at home or woke up early on my day off. If I were living that life, the "American Dream" without first living this life I would be unhappy and feel a void in my heart where travel and play should be. I would be self medicating with materialistic things I really cant afford like most Americans while the credit cards and my waste line pile up. I know because that's how my life was before travel and career. Or at least that's where my life was headed. A girl can have everything, just not all at once. That life will come but for know its work ,travel, play. Any void that may be in my life due to lack of children or someone to nurture my job cures. My only responsibility is to myself and my furry babies. There will always be a new place to travel, a new culture to explore, and family to laugh and cry with. I have chosen this life, even if it took me years to realize it, I will not settle.